November 5, 2012: Love Anyway

~ by Mary Galvano

When someone says or does something hurtful, one of the first things you might do is to react immediately to it in some way. It could be by bursting out in tears, responding with a sarcastic comment, or showing anger towards the other person. And yet, even when you have made it clear to that person that your feelings have been hurt they still don’t get it. For some reason you are the one to blame and you are the one that owes an apology. We have all been there.

Your stomach churns because you can’t understand why this person would be cruel to you. You lay in bed with tears in your eyes wondering what you could have done to prevent the situation. Maybe what was said to you was true and you didn’t want to hear the truth or maybe you reacted too quickly.

Whatever the outcome, one of the toughest things to do after an insult is to reach out and forgive and forget what was said or done to you, especially when you are the victim. The last thing we want to do is to be the first one to ask for forgiveness.

The lack of peace we have inside has to do with not letting go. Remember the Lord’s Prayer, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” One way to do let go is to give it to God and ask Him to direct you in what you should do. It might mean going the extra mile to offer peace whether it is through writing a note or speaking face to face, but do it in God’s name. Besides, isn’t this what Jesus did for us when He was dying on the cross? He was being crucified yet he still forgave us.

It is usually our reactions to what is said or done that cause an argument. A wonderful priest gave this advice, when someone insults you, as hard as it is, simply smile back and move on. If you react you start an argument. Instead, offer your humility up to God.

When you are faced with a choice of holding a grudge toward someone that has been hurtful or forgiving that person, ask yourself this question, “Is life really worth this aggravation?”

Once you learn that your life is between you and God and you start living by the Holy Spirit, you will be free from the petty things of this earth and move on to what really matters.

Be a person that doesn’t have time for pettiness. Rise above it! Be joyful in the Lord!

After seeking forgiveness if that person still doesn’t offer forgiveness back, say a prayer for him or her and move on. You did all that you could do. There are more important things at hand—eternal life being number one. And perhaps your Christian behavior will help someone else get to Heaven as well.

This famous quote from Blessed Mother Teresa says it all:

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”
~ Mother Teresa ~

Mary Galvano-Bajohr is a singer/songwriter, LPGA golf instructor, speaker and author. On the golf course she is a dedicated professional, but go to a Yankee game, a Pro-life event or other venue and you just might see her step up to the microphone and sing the National Anthem or the Ave Maria.

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